When I FINALLY got married, you can be sure I was EXCITED!! FINALLY I would have CART BLANCHE ACCESS to all that I had DREAMED ABOUT with a woman. It was LEGAL NOW! Outside of marriage I could see why SEX would be wrong… THIS was GOD’S WAY!
…You can imagine my surprise and disillusionment when I discovered that my wife didn’t share the same “DREAMS”! It didn’t take me long into the marriage to be truly sent into a whirlwind of dejection, frustration and anger!
You see, I had gone into marriage for what I would GET from it. and when I didn’t GET what I wanted… well, you know how that is. And WHO’S FAULT is it… obviously hers!
Its okay to feel sorry for me… sure. You know how it is. And how do I KNOW you know how it is?
We have all been educated in the same way by this world and its “Stinkin’ Thinkin'”
Simple thought for the day.
“God did not create marriage for what you would Get – But for what you could Give”
Your SPOUSE will NEVER be able to fill “Your Cup” in a way that makes you WHOLE. She will never meet the NEED of your soul in a way that makes you WHOLE.
Its not that you weren’t meant to BE and FEEL “WHOLE”- but GOD’S DESIGN is that you FIND in HIM, in His son JESUS that “WHOLENESS”.
He can and wishes to FILL YOUR CUP with Himself. Seek Him and you will Find Him and when you cast yourself upon Him, to KNOW HIM and be KNOWN by Him you will find that his drink allows you to never thirst again.
When you are IN HIM – being FILLED by Him – and not looking elsewhere for something to “fill your cup” Then you are FREE to FINALLY really LOVE!
In marriage we are called to LOVE. Not so as to GET (because that is not LOVE at all but Manipulation). No… we are called to LOVE our wives as Christ loved the church – laying down his life for her. SELFLESS LOVE is PURE LOVE – the GOOD STUFF.
When you are GOOD with GOD and abiding in that relationship daily, you then start to see people as HE sees them. You can now seek their highest good (which is pleasure in of itself – think of the last time you gave a gift from your heart and what joy it was to give it?) The gift of GOD to you is that you can GIVE daily, regardless if it is accepted or not makes no difference. Because you realize that HOW YOU TREAT OTHERS, HOW YOU LOVE (be it your enemy) – IS HOW YOU ARE TREATING GOD HIMSELF. (That is why he says you are a liar if you say you love God but don’t love another)
Marriage needs to be Re-Examined from this perspective as it then starts to become beautiful and gives glory to God. Where LOVE is… There is God.
Marriage doesn’t make you WHOLE. Your SPOUSE doesn’t make you WHOLE. Work, Play, Accomplishments, Identity… don’t make you WHOLE. – Only Jesus.